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BPO Agony Aunt

Working in the BPO industry? Earning a good packet, but not able to enjoy life with the kind of money you are earning? Getting a lot of promotions and therefore unable to sleep or connect to people? Does it lead to a lot of frustrations and problems?

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Hello Madam,I am a married women with two kids.My husband is a MBA from IIM.But madam in last 12 years of my married life I Have not seen stability in his Job.Most of time He is out of job.I have to face my Motherinlaw`s mental torture .i have gone in depression due to all circumstances.On the other hand my husband is a very gentle,loving and extremely intelligent,and hardworking person.Now he is planing to do his own work.Should he do his own work or find a job? please guide me sometimes I feel helpless .

Dear Kulwinder, Don't get depressed. Are you working or are you a homemaker? Do you have children? Today, the name of the game is losing jobs. There are a number of families where qualified men are losing jobs due to various circumstances and not necessarily because they are not good. You may have a bad mother-in-law but you seem to have a wonderful husband and that is more important. Why should your mother in law torment you if your husband has lost his job? She should talk to her son about it. Whatever you do, do not lose the support of your husband. That is very, very important. As your husband talks about his job or decides to start a new business, listen to him and give him your own feedback. He must also be a little nervous about starting on his own. But he seems to be young enough and with your guidance and support, he is sure to be successful. If you go into depression, who will support him? He is able to take such decisions because he is so sure of your support. Don't get depressed. In case you are qualified and yet not working, talk to him and ask him whether you can support the family by tutoring. This will give you an outlet and will also bring some money in. As i said, there are some questions that you haven't answered, so if you need more clarification you could always log in on agony aunt chat from 11:00-12:00 on Tuesday and Thursday. Don't worry. Something will work out. BPO Agony Aunt

i want to buy car(indica)for bpo can u tell me ,how can i earn profit from that. means by which basis they are paying money .please tell me detail information and any bpo call canter needs car please tell me their names. I hope that you will give me quick response. And thanks for opening this excellent service..

Dear Samira, You seem to have hit on a good proposition. This is being done widely in both Bangalore and Hyderabad. You could probably use the car as a taxi service for the BPOs. You will find the names of the top 10 IT companies (including BPOs) in the NSC website. Look at these, contact their HR of these companies and work out a proposition for yourself. It will require a lot of networking and perhaps contacts. You will have to contact other people running such services to find out what their operating costs, hidden costs and overheads are. Do a little bit of research before plunging in. If you make your service efficient and reliable, you are bound to be successful. Good luck. BPO Agony Aunt

hi..im 18 yr old..i've got a crush on a guy whom i've never met...he is my online frnd..he confessed his luv towards me..n i've accepted him..he was very honest wid me..he told everything about his ex..but..later on ..i realised that neither he nor i were really in luv...all this happened before 2 yrs...rite now...im very much attached to my classmate...n he cares for me a lot..n i guess he luvs me... im not sure..whether i've to accept my friend...should i confess about my ex to my frnd honestly??im afraid ...that i'l break our relation by doing that,,,so..plzz help me...!!!

Dear Confused, You are a little too young to decide on a relationship so don't get so tense. Are you out of school yet? As far as I can see, the other one you had was an online relationship, so why are you tense about that? By the way, it is very dangerous to reveal yourself to an online stranger. Please remember that. In case you feel that you are serious about the present guy, you could in a casual manner at some point of time reveal that you once had a crush on someone. It is always better that a person accepts you with all your weaknesses also. Take time with this relationship also. It could be an infatuation also. BPO Agony Aunt

Hello Aunty, Am 37 yrs with 7 yr old son. I would want guidance from you. Am graduate B.A) with Diploma in Computer Science never worked till now. Now Since we are having little financial difficulties want to work could you please suggest me how to develop my career since i don't have any work experience.I would be glad to more on this from you. Thank you.

Don't worry - someone who has the name of the Goddess of Wealth can never be in financial difficulties for too long! First, stop worrying. We all get into jobs for the first time. Today, computer science is a subject in many schools. You could tutor school and college students in that subject. This will give you the first experience you need. Tuition teachers are also making a lot of money these days. If you are also good at Math, you could teach mathematics also. Once you have gained at least one year of experience, you could work in a school. But if you are a good teacher, then you will be able to make enough money from home. In fact, your son's classmates may come to you for tuition. Keep looking at advertisements in the newspaper. A lot of publishers advertise for people who can write answer keys to subjects. You could try your hand at this also. If you have a computer at home, then you could teach housewives how to handle computers. There is a page in sitagita.com where you can advertise your services for free. There are also certain posts advertised in sitagita.com. Please have a look at these. Don't worry about the fact you have no experience. As long as you put your mind to it, you will do well. Good luck. BPO Agony Aunt

Hello Auntie, Well, if I actually think I have nothing much to complain. I am married to a wonderful person who loves me dearly. We have a sweet 15 month old baby. We have no problems with finances either. I have everything I could ask for in a married life - except a carrier. Yes. I am a CA & am very keen to work but was unable to work after marriage despite my husbands support. The reason - my mom-in-law. She is rather old fashioned, but diplomatic enough not to let my husband know. She behaves very well before my husband & my hubby loves her dearly for this. Now with a child- it's impossible for me to work & I have gone mad sitting at home all day & listening to my mom-in-law chatter all day (God! I wish I was deaf when she starts talking!)This has made me feel sick, I am trying to work from home (all internet based jobs, Google adsense, etc) but nothing's working out. I am utterly frustrated & this shows in my attitude. I don't talk well with my husband these days (I feel he's stepped on my carrier) & we have ended up fighting! What am I to do? I surely can't be contended staying at home all day...

Dear Roopa, You seem to have a wonderful life. Please don't ruin it. Enjoy your time with your baby because the baby does need you. You are trying to find an escape from your mom-in-law and that is very, very understandable. With such a young baby and a mother in law who will probably not help you out, it will be very difficult for you to work outside of the home. You could try taking classes for students - mathematics for school and college level. Your English is also good and therefore you could probably teach English to students also. There are a lot of advertisements in newspapers asking for people who will help develop content for schools and colleges. Try your hand at that. With students coming into your home, you will find that you no longer focus on your mother in law. Get back to talking terms with your husband. You need him by your side in order to feel good about yourself in spite of your mother in law. Your mother in law will become even more powerful if she comes to know that you have fought because of her! Don't give her this victory. Think of tuitions for the time being. When the child grows up, you will have plenty of options. Siitagita itself has a channel where you can advertise and where there are also advertisements. Your neighbours will welcome a tuition teacher who lives next door! BPO Agony Aunt

dearest auntie, i am a bulimic till date I have never confessed it to anybody the real thing is that 2 years ago I was 90 kilos and then I did dieting and exercising and lost about 40 kilos but couldn't maintain it and for the past one year I have been bulimic so that I can maintain my figure but i don't want to be a bulimic .so please please help me-confused soul

Dear Confused Soul, Are there are other bulimics in your family? Are you obsessed with perfectionism or are you bored? You could see a counsellor and talk about it. You do need someone to talk to about this problem on a regular basis. It has either started because you have seen someone doing it or because you are bored. How old are you and are you working? Are you married? It would be of great help if I could have these pieces of information. If you are feeling ashamed of it, you should be able to come out of the situation. You owe yourself that respect and dignity. Get into a diet and an exercise pattern that becomes addictive. Then you will find that you are on the path of normalcy. BPO Agony Aunt

Dear Agony Aunt, I am unable to get things done in time. How do I manage time?

Dear Neetu, Most of us let time manage us and therefore we run into a problem! The best way of getting things done, is to write down in a notebook exactly what you plan to do that day. List it out clearly and according to priority. For example, sending a courier would be more important than cleaning your cupboard. So put down your list according to importance. As you complete each piece of work, tick what you have completed. You should be able to complete at least 85% of your jobs that day. If you don't, it means that you either have to work faster or you have too many goals to complete in one day. Whatever jobs you haven't completed will have to get carried forward to the next day along with a new list! Remember, everyone has only 24 hours a day. So why is it that some people are efficient? They are only working hard and smartly! BPO Agony Aunt

I have 2 children and i can't seem to spend any time with them because i work late. They say i don't give them enough attention. I can't quit my job, but i can't seem to clear my schedule to spend time with them. what should i do? Nidhi

Dear Nidhi, This is a question many mothers are asking themselves today. Most mothers seem to be caught between their homes and their jobs. Whatever the job, the most important thing is to somehow spend time with the children. If you could have told me the ages of your children and whether they are boys or girls, I would have been able to give you a better answer. Are you working for an organization where you also need to work at home? If that is so, then it is a little difficult. All the same, in spite of the cooking, the cleaning and the numerous chores that women have, if you could set aside time for them either during dinner or after dinner to run through their day's activities, I am sure it will be appreciated. You could talk about your day too, so that they know how hard you are working. Make dinner times fun times when you are talking and not complaining - complaining can come later! Set aside the weekends just for the children - to take them out shopping, to a restaurant or to a film. True, your own life is important and your own social life too, but remember, children spread their wings and fly by the time you know it. When we can set aside so many minutes a day to dust and clean, shouldn't we be spending time with our loved ones? Where there is a will, there is a way! BPO Agony Aunt

i was madly in love a guy who is my cousin's friend. he too loved me very much. things went on until my parents knew about our relationship. they knew him before but failed to accept him as my guy.we had a lot of problems at my home. my dad was kept warning me that he was not a good person as my cousin and he were too close.but i did not mind that its all over between them. i had no issues and even before committing i knew about it.like all lovers we too faced small fights mis understandings.i was totally mad on him and vice versa.then one of my college friend came into my life. he is smart and decent boy.he had initial crushes for me.since we were in college we did not take it seriously.but his friends made up him that i was his girl.in many confusions he stopped speak in to me cos he thought that would be good for both of us.but it turned the other way around.he grew more feelings for me and i was so confused as to why is he doing like that.with the help of our common friends he told me that he loves me.those days of separation and his gentle care during my college tour made me decide that he was correct for me cos my dad once told me that he would marry me even to another religion person but not the one i loved(my cousin's friend)this guy is from another religion. even this was a botheration at that time. so made up my mind to be with this guy.i informed my lover about this new guy in my life he spoke to him also.and they told me that i have to decide i should be with whom.my friend persuaded me to be with this new boy as my lover created many problems at my place.so i am with him now.my problem is i love this person more than my lover but he fails to reciprocate it. i have tried my level best to forget my lover but in vain. my new guy also loves me but he is not too caring.he is too irresponsible.many times he made me feel that he doesnt understand me nor my love.but he knows abt my past. he never asks anything about it. he s very decent boy. but im not able to bear the feeling of unloved. i feel so lonely though we both are in same college etc.wen my lover was there i never felt lonely or unloved.he s my man.my sweet memories with him is killing me.i want to get back to him.will he accept me?i have confidence he will.many times i have spoken about leaving such a relationship where both of us are unhappy even to my new guy he too says the same.he loves me but doesnt care or make me feel good.i was so flexible to him cos i thought it be alright after some time .more than one and half yrs over he s the same he doesnt change and also tells me he wont.but even now i really love my lover(the first one)pls help

Dear Aishu, You cannot continue staying with someone you don't love, especially when you have the choice to walk out of the relationship. Instead of wondering whether your ex boyfriend will accept you or not, why don't you ask him yourself? This is a better way of solving the problem rather than dying a thousand deaths. Fix up an appointment with this person alone and talk to him, tell him how much you love him. But also respect his wishes. If he says that he has gotten over you, respect him and forget about him. Wish you all the best. BPO Agony Aunt