Womens Thoughts

The news item said that the ratio of boys to girls amongst the Sikh community was 1000 boys to 700 girls and talked of sex determination tests and female infanticide being rampant in most parts of North India.

Why cant we women take up arms against such a crime? Collectively we have moved the earth in our favour, then why do we let such things carry on?

What is really appalling, is that we women aid and abet such crimes. Most of the time we women are to be blamed, since we allow our wombs to be invaded and our child destroyed. Mothers - in - law taunt and torture daughters-in-law when baby girls are produced, yet their sons strut about scot-free. The universal truth is that the husband's 'Y' chromosome is what determines the sex (male) of the child. We women turn against ourselves, when we encourage abortions and killing of the girl child. Why don't we broadcast loud and clear that we are not guilty, when it comes to producing a girl, and that the MAN has a bigger hand in the birth of a boy?

Let us make a great effort in changing the mindset of our society, teach our sons to cook while we teach our daughters to drive and fix a fuse.
Let us educate them equally. In fields and plantations women sow and reap and pluck, in offices they work along with their male colleagues AND they all come back home to take care of the house and family. Girls perform superhuman tasks superbly, they do a double duty in life with ease. Then why do we belittle them? Kill them before they are even born?
Why do, we women, allow ourselves to be belittled and humiliated in this manner? Shouldn't we all work towards allowing a better sense to prevail?

I still remember the time someone came to visit me, when I adopted a baby girl(A well traveled, well-read, senior naval officer's wife). She asked me "Why did you have to adopt a girl when you had a choice and could easily have opted for a boy?"

I ask you why?

Let us not tamper with nature, let us allow are daughters to be born. We destroyed trees and it led to landslides and erosion; we destroyed our forests and we had man-eating leopards preying on us. When there are less girls in society, there will be a shortage of marriage partners. Will this give rise to more rapes and homosexuality?

What kind of a society are we headed towards... perhaps more live-in partners, completely wiping out the institution of marriage itself?
Let us not forget it is the girl that has the womb to propagate the
human race. No girl, no womb. No male child either!

It is up to us to control population, and not make it lopsided: 'man' heavy! By practicing birth control we provide for a better infra structure for life itself: better health, better education, better job opportunities. LESS (people) is MORE ( facilities for living)
Let us not tamper with the human ratio, destroy the balance and the
harmony of life.

A girl or boy is not important but a healthy child is.

Let us empower ourselves and 'delete' dowry from our memory banks. Only then will we succeed in destroying the reasons for female infanticide, bride burning and other related issues.

Let nature look after the "X" and the "Y" factors of our lives.
Think positive when you think 'girl' and lets root for women power.

- Rita Mukherjee

Your Comments

Unabashed preference for a male heir is not new to our society and has led to practice of female foeticide in past and now, advances in technology has given another avenue to the girl-haters to carry out their murderous designs by knowing the sex of unborn child, a girl child is being eliminated in womb itself. Above practices have already led to a disturbed sex ratio in the 0-6 years age group.This skewed ratio is alarming and will lead to anarchy , arson, lawlessness and increased crime against women. Most disturbing about the above heinious trend is it's more prevalence in urban and educated population and the fact that cre'me of society, doctors who are supposed to uphold and safeguard human values are active participants in this crime against humanity.No person can know the sex of unborn child if a doctor refrains himself in telling so. It is high time that our society wakes up and work together to restore the rights and dignity of the girl child.

Name: DR MAMTA SHARMA

Society.. Who forms this Society.. This is formed by all individuals counted as one. According to me instead of blaming one another after perusing such news reports its better we discuss the measures that need to be taken. Not only women but men also need to join this fight against Female Feticide. Man and Woman together can make this place a better place to live in. And we should put sense in not just the women of coming genera tons but in all those who feel girl born is a bad sign..

Name : Radha

I completely endorse Rita Mukherjee's thoughts. I have been brought up by parents who don't belong to this century - they surely must belong to another planet!!! - as they have loved us(2 daughters & a son) equally with no bias whatsoever. So imagine my shock & disbelief when on delivering my healthy/happy/cute bundle of joy people passed such stupid comments (all said by women!) as ''you must be disappointed that it was not a boy'', ''oh! in our family the first child has always been a boy for generations'', ''a family is incomplete without a son'' etc. As my husband & I had wanted a daughter & we were blessed with one, we decided not to go in for a second child. We had to endure lots of comments about our decision. Unfortunately Indians think it is their birthright to discuss other's family life - lack of children, number of children, gender of children etc. Even my close friends try to convey (very subtly) to me what I am missing out on by not having a son! In fact I feel a lot of them are jealous of my daughter, who is very intelligent, well read & a loving/doting daughter to her parents!!! Well in my opinion, a family which does not have a daughter is an incomplete family! As Rita Mukherjee says a girl or boy is not important but a healthy child is. A MOTHER is a MOTHER whether she has a daughter or a son, then why do women practice gender bias. Lets root for women power & let's hope some sense prevails amongst the women of the coming generations.

Name : Padma Kilambi

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