Be yourself…

From time to timeless Woman, I hold, is the personification of self-sacrifice, but unfortunately today she does not realize what tremendous advantage she has over man. Mahatma Gandhi -True, women do not realize their own capacity to conquer anything under the sky. Most women under estimate their own powers to excel, some of them place themselves behind a wall creating limitations for themselves, in the name of the culture and society. Today woman is also the bread winner like her male counter part. Yet the challenges she faces are much more as she has to deal with her home, family and work. Its not that self sacrifice is wrong, it has to be whole hearted and must be out of love and compassion rather than out of sheer compulsion. To achieve this she has to love her own self first. Today many women live with self hatred and depression thinking there’s no one to care for them and that they are fit for nothing. Unable to cope with or balance her multi tasking she becomes frustrated and depressed. House wife’s or home makers are the most affected as she has to cope up with the long lonely hours at home till her hubby and children return. Instead of just watching TV and engaging in small talk or just sleeping we can make use of our free time in a number of ways which will benefit both us and the society we live in. Here are some of the options in which one can spend their free time.

Friendship: while on a holiday I happened to over hear a conversation among three ladies who appeared to be friends, who had come for vacation leaving behind their respective families. They were chatting loudly about their school days, and college days, that they completely forgot where they were. How wonderful it would be to have a get together with friends and relive those fond memories. So cultivate healthy friendship with someone who makes you comfortable, and who will always be ready to help and be on your side when you need help. Most of all you should be able to trust her 100% true to the words “a friend in need is a friend indeed”. During tough times men grit their teeth while women call their friends and when stressed men usually take the “flight or fight” attitude while women need social contact with other women.

“Our physical and mental health depends on having close relationships with people we can turn to, especially in times of crisis or stress,” says an expert on women’s health . That special person who can never be blindly judgmental and to whom you can always turn to, is truly a great friend who can always take you to that comfort zone, where you can just de-stress and relax.
Write a journal. Your journal can be a vehicle to open up your thoughts, feelings and dreams. All you need to do is start writing. Start by writing how you feel about yourself, what you love and what you hate, what is making you happy and what is not, what you like to do and what not etc. you will be surprised as to how little you knew about your self. As you progress you’ll see how you have your own individuality in seeing things differently and uniquely your way.
You can also identify those corners of your personality which were pulling you down-mentally and emotionally, and try to rectify it. Who knows you might even end up reliving your childhood dreams. Find a comfortable position in your chair. Clear your mind. Relax. And let your thoughts and emotions flow freely. It is important that you do not censor yourself as you write. Do not worry about grammar or punctuation errors. Put every thought onto the page. Be risky. Be daring. Be yourself.

Start learning. There’s no limit to learning something new be it art and craft or computers or even a degree through correspondence. It will also always make you feel young at heart. If academics don’t interest you, take up Yoga, meditation, aerobics, bhajan, music, instrumental and the list is never ending and limitless.

You can also start reading books. Starting a book club might turn out to be an interesting twist in your social life. You might meet new friends, be motivated and inspired. Your exposure will broaden you thoughts and actions sharpening your personality and individuality.
The more sporty types can enroll for swimming, tennis or soft ball classes. It all depends on what you select and finally in the end how you feel.

Service to the society. If there’s that soft corner, that inner urge and compassion for the less privileged go forward and start helping and serving them. Join groups or join an organization, help them in any way that might be affordable and comfortable for you. You will receive great mental peace and satisfaction that you have made your life useful. Just go to a hospital nearby or to an old age home. Talk to the inhabitants, pray for them.
assure them, give words of inspiration, and listen to them. Small gestures will make tremendous difference in their lives.

If you think you have the ability to make a difference in other peoples life through your writing then free lancing is the best way to share your views with the readers world wide. There is a misconception that only Literature graduates can enter the writing field. Anyone with a flair for writing and with a “good issue” can write. Anybody with a good command over language, a keen sense of observation and a good style can become a freelance writer.
Group activities. People living in big apartments can form evening groups which mostly chatter or gossip about sweet nothings. Instead join together to form clubs like health club, book club, craft club etc. people interested in respective fields can join and make their time useful. Organize a monthly cultural or a picnic. Hose who really benefit from these are the children who socialize and get to learn the art of giving and taking, as the nuclear family setup deprives them of the opportunity to know all these things.

Whatever you might do with your life all depends upon the attitude you have. At the end of the day you should be able to relax and feel a sense of fulfillment and self-satisfaction. Most important is that you don’t over do your activities so as to deprive your family as they need your love, support and care when they come back home after a long day at work or school. They will surely love to know how well you have managed your time and definitely be proud of what you do and feel You will set a good example for your kids who will learn to value time more and start making plans to follow suit. Last but not the least we are here to be happy and make others happy, so be happy for who you are and what you do.

Love yourself, keep yourself bright and presentable all the times. Let this connection between self-acceptance and attractiveness become an upward spiral, which will help you to grow spiritually and mentally, broaden your horizon and make the lotus in your hearts bloom.
- M.K.Vijaya Rajalakshmi

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