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I’ve just got back from a holiday, with my two kids aged 4 and 6. It was a blissful period of rest and recuperation and getting some of my thoughts in order. The last 3 years have been Hell. Court appearances, divorce proceedings and constant battles with my ex-husband sapped me of all my energy.

Looking back, I feel I was constantly struggling. Struggling to appear strong and optimistic, keeping my sanity, trying to make ends meet, trying to be a single parent to little kids who never understood any thing of what I went through. It was hard to keep my job and have to leave my kids with my mom for day care.

All this while my ex-husband was “enjoying”. He never paid me anything towards maintenance, didn’t bother about the kids, and seemed to be having a merry time with his girlfriend.

Reflecting on the last three years I realized the hurt, the pain and the humiliation I had gone through. Would it have been easier to carry on, turning a blind eye to his philandering ways? What was I trying to prove? That I can stand on my own two feet? That I can be a mom and dad to two innocent children? That I stood for certain ideals and wasn’t going to compromise?

Only a single mom knows how hard and exhausting things are. Are there other women out there who have a similar story? Wonder if we can exchange notes. Is divorce really worth it? Are divorced people happier? Will my kids blame me some day for the extreme step I took? Would it scar them for life? There are so many questions…..I’m just waiting to get some answers!
- Jamini

Your Comments

HI jamini Every one of us go thru such kind of Trials &tribulations 'n life ,which I think God gives us 2 make better individuals of us. ThAT'S what I learnt from my trials.Coming 2 ur questions---I do'nt think divorce 's worth ANYTHING.iT'S ONLY temporary escape. It's better FACE THINGS,whatever t b. dear friend, U 'n write 2 me here,itself or to my id.I'n surely give u this kind of oral service.It's my PLEASURE
Name : Lalitha

Hi jamini.Hats off to u.Mayb iam too young to comment but i do understand what u must have gone thrown or going through.If ur husband really cared for u,he would have tried to ease off ur probs. indirectly if nt directly but he doesnt seem to even give it a thought. Whats the point in hanging around & waiting for him to shower his benevolence? You have self-respect & its brave & sensible of u to take such a bold decision.Don't worry.Have faith in god & we r all there for u.I know its lot more difficult than spoken but i have confidence in u that u will face all of this bravely & emerge as a winner.Your children will always b proud of u.Take care,lots of love to u & ur kids !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Name : Aastha

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