Are men “real” people?

I almost had a whole blog dedicated to my heartbreak and the man behind this horrible thing. But when I read and re-read it, I smelt a bit of hate and lots of hurt in it. And let me admit, why I read and re-read it…it was because of a wonderful little blog on “Forgive & Forget” right here on sitagita Womens Blog!

And, guess what! When I rewrote my blog, I found I was more to blame than him!
We all hit our lows, sometime in life. I have just decided to share my story and feel better!

When I am at my lowest, I can hurt people, and it was perhaps one of those days. I hurt him and he chose to hurt back. I of course didn’t mean anything final, but what he did, made it final! There are two sides to us all. I’ve just realized that if I hadn’t done what I did, (even though I did not visualize the consequences) perhaps I wouldn’t have provoked him to taking a hurtful and final decision like we eventually did.

To spite me, he chose to go out with my best friend. Should I have forgiven that? The question haunts me till date, even though it’s over 6 months since this happened. How do you forgive people who are not sorry? Today I have not only lost my boyfriend, but also my best friend. Who is the loser? Is it only me? Or are those two, losers as well?

Every time I’ve nursed a heart break, I come out wondering whether men are real people at all. I don’t hate men but I do wonder at their capacity to understand and their complete insensitivity. They can be so callous in a relationship, and actually never feel guilty about things they do. My boyfriend had mastered the art of lying to me constantly. He always pretended he didn’t know…didn’t know I was hurt, didn’t know what he should have done, had no idea what he could have done… How come so much that is obvious, escapes them completely? I often wonder whether I am alone in thinking this way or are there others out there who feel the same way?

Your Comments

Of course there are great men around but they don't all come in great packages all the time. If your BF left you it just means you were never important to him and he never loved you same with your GF who never valued your friendship. I think you just have to move on with life and be thankful such person never became a part of life as a husband. Its always difficult for woman especially woman who blindly love a person probably due to underlying inferiority complex that they might not find another guy. this is true especially in India where woman are always second citizens and men always find everything easy. SO just move on forget about him. This is the only way to get back at your ex. I have met some great guys and I know many are too sweet who are taken for a ride by cheap superficial woman.
Name : jyoti

I used to think like you because my ex-boyfriend used to tell many lies. In fact the love itself was a lie. I realised it is not about men when a girl has broken my brother's heart in a way more terrible. Men don't talk much about heartbreaks, but they too suffer from girls who plays with their feelings. Basically there are two kinds of people, people who love wholeheartedly and people who see love as a game or time pass. There are men and women in both categories. You are well out of that relationship. Forget him. Are you sure he went out with your best friend just to spite you? If so, he is a heartless creep. May be he liked your friend anyway, and just found an excuse when you did whatever you did. Either way you are lucky you didn't end up married to him. Free your heart, so that a man worthy of your love can walk in there!
Name : Sangeetha

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