Subtle scenario

We often know the 'proper' way to behave in a corporate scenario. Or a formal social situation such as a wedding reception or a dinner with a dignitariy.
What we often forget, is the fact that niceties are for always. And there are special occasions that crop up in our lives from day to day which require subtle handling.
Let us take a look at some of these special situations.

Concert conduct

Do arrive on time for concerts, shows and events. Fumbling, stumbling, even tumbling in the dark is annoying to the rest of the audience. No one likes people squeezing past, groping blindly and sitting on their laps, albeit inadvertently. Arriving on time when the lights are on can save you embarrassment and the others, discomfort.

Do not pressure the crew into making an exception for your bag. Safety first!

Switch off pagers and mobile 'phones. Some sensible auditoriums levy fines for cell 'phone menace.

Never leave mid way unless it is an emergency. Do not push past people to exit first.

Never stand up to see or hear better. There are others behind you who cannot see through you. Never save seats for latecomers. It is rude to make people stand, while you reserve a seat for people who are so disinterested that they cannot come on time.

After a performance, wait until each row clears and your turn comes. A few minutes later shouldn't matter.

Clap trap

Applauding appropriately is an art...

Have you ever been embarrassed, clapping loudly at a concert during a pause in the performance thinking that the piece had concluded? Avoid concert faux pas.

• High-brow fare such as classical recitals, operas and ballets are a class apart. Literally. Applauding during every lull and after every solo is most inappropriate.

• Jazz allows freedom of appreciation. Clap along. Foot tap. Enjoy.

• Valedictory functions and graduations are a matter of personal pride. Do remember though, your youngster expects you to be dignified! Gentle applause is in order. Don't jump up and down like you are at the stadium watching rugby.

• Weddings, devotional gatherings, prayer meetings and more sober occasions are exactly what they are - sober. Do not applaud.

• After a stellar performance, if you feel with it, stand up for an ovation. If you did not like the performance, don't stand up in hypocritical tandem with the mob.

• Award ceremonies, like graduations are professional in nature. Wait for the speakers to finish and applaud gently. A lifetime achievement award deserves a standing ovation.