Making and mending fences

While it's good to know your space and that of your neighbours', and stay within your limits, there are certain civilities that convert good neighbours into friends. Just like good fences, good bridges too are necessary.

• Long years ago, merchants would greet new neighbours with a 'welcome wagonload' of goodies. To make then feel at home. This was in the days when men had time for each other.

• Now, when we hardly have time for ourselves, may be we should at least refrain from a hollered out "Hey! When are going to move that truck out?"

• People move into a new neighbourhood with many a fear and doubt. A welcome smile or a cheery wave can set then at ease. That is basic courtesy.

• Those who care that little bit more can go across with an offer of a pot of tea and some cookies.

• After the move, it might be a good idea to visit with a little token of welcome    a gift of flowers, a list of shops and essential services, a few important numbers and the offer of help and friendship.

• Pets and neighbourhood wars seem related. Keep your pets' noise level down.

• Toilet training your pets is imperative.

• Keep children out of trouble and neighbours' yards. Seeking permission to pick up a stray ball must start young. Teach them courtesy.

• Loud parties and noisy families are not popular. No one may complain, but no one may like you either.

• Keep your cars and things out of others' driveways. Park right.

• Dispose of garbage sensibly.

• Respect places of worship.

• Never discuss politics in public.

• Never interfere in other people's arguments.

So what is all this about? Manners, Etiquette... just plain decency? Civic sense? Or good old common sense?